We discussed adoption in great detail before we took any action. We decided we wanted two children. The micro manager brought up the topic of sexes of the children. I'd never given sexes a thought. I just was ready to take whatever came along. My wife asked what I wanted. My choice was to have both children of the same sex. I didn't care if it was two boys or two girls. My wife wanted a boy and a girl. So you see whose influence carried the weight.
We also wanted a two year space between the kids. However, that was out of our hands. We made an application that we thought might give a two year space. A home visitation was not necessary and most of the information was exactly the same. So all the paperwork is done. Now you just sit and wait.
Oh yes, we had a very bright little two year old to consider in this application. We tried to prepare him for the arrival of a baby sister. He listened, nodded his head, but the eyes told me he didn't grasp the reality. And what two year old would understand this situation.
Well, you'd never guess this. The Dept. phoned Dec. 22 again! Come and pick up a baby tomorrow. This time we were ready. So pack up the car with a two year old and all the stuff for a newborn and off we go the next day.
The routine in the office was the same. We were given all the information about the new baby. A big box of toys just happened to be in the office so a two year old was completely in his own world.
Again they brought the baby in and left us. We wanted our son to look at the new baby which he did for about two and a half seconds.
Immediately we had some serious questions about this little girl. Her head was twisted to one side. When the worker came back we brought this up. Was there a health problem? Was this a permanent condition. The physician who did a medical on her two days before was phoned. He said she did not have anything wrong and thought that it was as a result of her moving in and out of houses, cars and offices.
We were reassured and decided to take the baby.
Off the 100 miles to home with our two kids.
The twisted sore neck disappeared in a couple of days.
With two little kids we decided to stay home for Christmas.
The kids birthdays were four days apart so we got as close to a two year space a we could possibly get.
I was happy to have a boy and a girl.
I've always told my kids that they are the two best kids I could ever have.
Would I do it again? Yes, I'd do it over in a heartbeat!