Friday, January 29, 2016

A Second Shot

      In my last post I covered my son's adoption. That event was not enough to derail the plan for two children. So off we go on another adoption event.

      We discussed adoption in great detail before we took any action. We decided we wanted two children. The micro manager brought up the topic of sexes of the children. I'd never given sexes a thought. I just was ready to take whatever came along. My wife asked what I wanted. My choice was to have both children of the same sex. I didn't care if it was two boys or two girls. My wife wanted a boy and a girl. So you see whose influence carried the weight.

     We also wanted a two year space between the kids. However, that was out of our hands. We made an application that we thought might give a two year space. A home visitation was not necessary and most of the information was exactly the same. So all the paperwork is done. Now you just sit and wait.

      Oh yes, we had a very bright little two year old to consider in this application. We tried to prepare him for the arrival of a baby sister. He listened, nodded his head, but the eyes told me he didn't grasp the reality. And what two year old would understand this situation.

     Well, you'd never guess this. The Dept. phoned Dec.  22 again! Come and pick up a baby tomorrow. This time we were ready. So pack up the car with a two year old and all the stuff for a newborn and off we go the next day.

     The routine in the office was the same. We were given all the information about the new baby. A big box of toys just happened to be in the office so a two year old was completely in his own world. 

     Again they brought the baby in and left us. We wanted our son to look at the new baby which he did for about two and a half seconds.

     Immediately we had some serious questions about this little girl. Her head was twisted to one side. When the worker came back we brought this up. Was there a health problem? Was this a permanent condition. The physician who did a medical on her two days before was phoned. He said she did not have anything wrong and thought that it was as a result of her moving in and out of houses, cars and offices. 

    We were reassured and decided to take the baby.

    Off the 100 miles to home with our two kids. 

    The twisted sore neck disappeared in a couple of days. 

    With two little kids we decided to stay home for Christmas. 

    The kids birthdays were four days apart so we got as close to a two year space a we could possibly get. 

    I was happy to have a boy and a girl.

    I've always told my kids that they are the two best kids I could ever have.

    Would I do it again? Yes, I'd do it over in a heartbeat!






38 comments:

  1. You are a tender dad, and I bet a great one.

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    1. I had my days. Sometimes I had to be pretty tough.

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  2. I remember asking my daughter if she wanted to meet her baby brother, he arrived late the night before. She said "not really" she was 3 and a half at the time. Such precious memories you are sharing.

    Betty

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    1. There are some things you can never forget. That's one of them.

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  3. These are very special posts, Red.
    Your daughter is lovely.

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    1. Thanks. She taught for 8 years and then decided to look for something else.

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  4. How nice you have two adopted children. Sweet memories when seeing the photos again.

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    1. Yes , this project has brought back many memories.

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    1. Thanks. she's an extrovert and sassy.

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  6. YOu are very lucky both to be able to bless the lives of two children and to be blest by them.

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  7. Wouldn't it be wonderful if all stories had endings like this.

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    1. Don't worry , we've had some ups and downs.

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  8. She is beautiful! And it's wonderful to find out how your family was formed. Thank you for being such a great dad, as well as a faithful blogger! :-)

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    1. Well, thanks. there were times when there were challenges as in every family.

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  9. What sweet, sweet memories. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Yes, the photos brought a lot of things back.

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  10. Very cute! I can't help but smile at the gruff expression of the dog in the last shot!

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    1. It was actually a very loving dog but badly needed a haircut there.

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  11. And she is beautiful! What fun to hear you speak of her way to your family! :)

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    1. Hey, you're my mentor when it comes to talking about family!

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  12. True parents are the ones who see their children through everything. You have both done a tremendous job. You are both beautiful Red n MM. Thank you for YOU.

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    1. Well, thanks! There were times when it wasn't all smooth but we chose to remember the good parts.

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  13. Another wonderful adoption story for you! They are beautiful children.

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    1. The adoptions were quite the adventures. Raising kids is another thing!

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  14. Hi Red, Well, that's about the sweetest story I've read all week. Looks like this was a win/win/win/win! :-)

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  15. I love this story Red. What a beautiful family you have too. So glad the micro manager got her girl and I'm sure she became 'daddy's girl'. Happy weekend.

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    1. I found it easy to work with my daughter as she liked renovation projects. We put laminate flooring in her town house for one.

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  16. Another heartwarming post. What a lovely family you are. And such wonderful memories. I love all the photos you are sharing. Your daughter is so beautiful.

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    1. Thanks. There were tough times but we have to look back at the good times.

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  17. Beautiful family, Red. It's such a pure act of love to adopt a child. And also to have the love to give your baby up for a better life. Thankfully these two children got exactly that.

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  18. precious! you were gifted and they were as well!!!

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  19. Awww, how sweet! Your children were so lucky to get you and your wife as parents!
    Isn't it fun to reminisce now- and to see what wonderful human beings you raised. I have one of each, too, and sometimes I am amazed that they turned out as well as they did.

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  20. That's so sweet! My mom always said I was chosen!

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  21. Another heart touching story and what a blessing, not only for you and the Micro Manager but for your precious children as well!

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  22. My 2 nieces were both adopted from Columbia and Guatemala and here have been ups and downs in their family as well. Thanks for sharing more of your stories.

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