As a young man I spent much of my time partying but sooner or later I found somebody who I really liked and was married.
I don't think either one of us thought about children until a couple of years later. When we thought about children it was a very short sighted view. We tended to think of babies , toddlers and preschoolers. I couldn't get my head around thinking of children being older.
My children are adopted so I had lots of time to think things over. After you go through interviews and fill out forms with all kinds of information , you've had time to think things over if you want a family. They ask yoi over and over if you want to adopt a child. You have to get people to give you references. I've often thought that all people should have to go through such a procedure and then some people may make a different choice of being a parent. I remember going to pick up both kids. Again we were asked if we wanted children. Then you got chance to see the infant. Then they asked again if this is what we wanted.
At this time of year this is one of my favorite photos of the kids.
Time passes quickly and those little kids grew up. As I said I couldn't really see past pre school. And when school age hit time really flew until suddenly those little kids were ready to leave me. I wasn't ready to let them go but that was the only decision there was.
I realize that at the same time this was happening to my kids I was aging very quickly.
So after all this time my answer is still yes for children.
So the kicker in all this is that both children were picked up on the 22 nd of December! How's that for a Christmas present you'll never forget.
